Comments on: When The Non-Custodial Parent Won’t Consent: Part One http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-the-non-custodial-parent-won-t-cons Covering stepparent adoption, step child adoption, non-custodial parents, consent, Terminating Parental Rights, behavioral and parenting issues relating to Stepparent Adoption. Tue, 09 Mar 2010 19:13:38 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Julie Crowley http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-the-non-custodial-parent-won-t-cons/comment-page-1#comment-284 Julie Crowley Mon, 29 Jan 2007 20:02:18 +0000 http://stepparent-a.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/25/when-the-non-custodial-parent-won-t-cons#comment-284 http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/illinois-legal-aide-site<br /> <br /> The above link is to an article I wrote about the Illinois Legal Aide website, which should help you in your research. If you cannot find the biological mother than you can publish a public notice in the paper, after running for 30 days if the mother does not respond than the adoption can continue as though she has consented to the adoption. I have written articles about that process as well, further back in the blog. Telling her parents is up to you, that all depends on if you think they will support your decision, or try to fight you. If you fear that they will fight you, and the adoption is in the best interest of your daughter then perhaps it would be best to let them know once the adoption has been completed. http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/illinois-legal-aide-site

The above link is to an article I wrote about the Illinois Legal Aide website, which should help you in your research. If you cannot find the biological mother than you can publish a public notice in the paper, after running for 30 days if the mother does not respond than the adoption can continue as though she has consented to the adoption. I have written articles about that process as well, further back in the blog. Telling her parents is up to you, that all depends on if you think they will support your decision, or try to fight you. If you fear that they will fight you, and the adoption is in the best interest of your daughter then perhaps it would be best to let them know once the adoption has been completed.

]]> By: redheddad http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/when-the-non-custodial-parent-won-t-cons/comment-page-1#comment-283 redheddad Sun, 28 Jan 2007 17:36:35 +0000 http://stepparent-a.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/25/when-the-non-custodial-parent-won-t-cons#comment-283 oh god that makes me feel so bad for my kid. her mom is "out there" in the drug world. 2 years gone and not a single attempt to contact my daughter. i got re-married in august 05 and we are in the most preliminary of steps towards having my current wife named legally as her mom. couple questions for anyone out there. im in illinois. what happens if we cant get ahold of the ex to serve her papers. should we tell her parents what we are up to? we are still close with them and they sit for my daughter at least once a month. i would tell them eventually but see no reason to involve them at this point. its not like we are gonna cut and run from them as we still like them and want them to be a part of our daughters life. any thoughts for me? oh god that makes me feel so bad for my kid. her mom is “out there” in the drug world. 2 years gone and not a single attempt to contact my daughter. i got re-married in august 05 and we are in the most preliminary of steps towards having my current wife named legally as her mom. couple questions for anyone out there. im in illinois. what happens if we cant get ahold of the ex to serve her papers. should we tell her parents what we are up to? we are still close with them and they sit for my daughter at least once a month. i would tell them eventually but see no reason to involve them at this point. its not like we are gonna cut and run from them as we still like them and want them to be a part of our daughters life. any thoughts for me?

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