At the end of this year, my adopted stepson will be sixteen years old. He has yet to get his driver’s permit and is simply itching to do so, so that he may begin driving while he is sixteen, along with the rest of his friends. His maturity level have definitely grown, so much so in fact that we brought home the driver’s test study guide for him and told him to get his proof of enrollment form so that we could take him up to the local DMV and get him a learners permit for driving.
As any young teenager would be, he was absolutely thrilled, yet each and every time we come close to taking him up to the DMV, he does something that he knows will prevent him from being able to obtain one. The first time we were set and ready to go, he forgot to bring his proof of enrollment form home, after two days of talking about it nonstop. In fact, the form has yet to come home, even after going back to school after the long holiday, and thinking about the fact that he could have been learning how to drive, instead of playing video games all weekend. That’s not to say that he didn’t have a good weekend, he had a friend over almost the entire time and they had a complete blast with one another.
Today we learned that his grade in Latin II has dropped to a ‘D’ due to nothing more than missing work. Work that he did, but just never turned it. Could the fact that he must maintain good grades in order to have the privilege of driving have anything to do with it perhaps? It has been common for him throughout his young life to purposely sabotage things like this for himself, either out of fear, or not feeling worthy of receiving whatever it is that life is offering at the time.
The fact that he is taking his time on getting ready to drive, is no problem with me at all. I am not looking forward to our insurance rates jumping through the roof once we add a teenage driver to our policy! His grades I know will come up, with the new system that the school has we are able to see his current grades all the time, so catching missed work happens the same day that the teacher enters it into her computer, not allowing him to fall very far behind, like what happened last year. Part of him genuinely becomes upset and disappointed when he learns that we will again not be traveling to the DMV until his grades come up, yet another part of him, and seemingly the bigger part of him is greatly relieved that the responsibility of driving is just around the corner…again.