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You know it is funny, because this is not what I was planning on writing today, but this just sort of fell in my lap, so to speak, so I thought that I would just go with it. My husband and I have been thinking about trading my mini van in. Now there isn’t anything terribly wrong with the van, it has never given me any trouble, always worked just fine; it just needs a little bit of work at the moment. And for some reason, my husband and I seem to just trade our cars in, when it comes time for maintenance!
We certainly aren’t wasteful, by any means. When it comes to penny pinching, I am the undisputed queen! I have a hard time letting go of money! My husband, however, feels that I deserve to drive something better, than what I have, now that we are financially more stable. He wants me to have everything that I have every wanted, I just have a hard time letting him do it.
After I finally let him talk me into the possibility of the idea of getting a new car for myself, we began to search for just what it is that I would want. Cars are such a big decision, since you own them for such a long time, and they are so expensive, you definitely what to find what you want, and not get stuck with something that you can afford, but hate.
Children and family are the most important aspect of my life. I love my family with all of my heart, and one day, I would like to see it grow, either through adoption, or another biological child…or two. It is because of this that my search for a new car is going so slowly. In planning for a new car, consideration of what life will be like, or is wanted to be like, for the next several years needs to take place.
Since I am looking for our family to grow in the coming years, I would like something that has some extra space. This is not something that my husband had even thought about while he was searching. He was looking for something that I would enjoy to drive, not something that was suitable for family life further on down the road. The idea of a new car, actually sparked several conversations between him and I about our life, and what sort of time line we would like different events to take place in our life.
Once we had that established, or at least a very good rough outline, we were able to narrow our car search down quite a bit. He now swears up and down, through several phone calls today, that he has found the absolute perfect car for me, as well as my plans for the future. Now we will have to see if this pans out, he is going to call later after he test drives the car.
But what I thought was so important is that when planning such big decisions such as buying a car, it is really important to step back and think about the future and what it is that you want out of it. If you want to expand your family in the future, even if you are only hopeful of it, then plan for it. Put everything into place so that one day, if things do work out to what you want, you already have everything else in place for it to happen.
