I recently came across this website on the Internet called, Win Your Child Custody War. The site is full of an array of books pertaining to custody, visitation, and court. And while I thought that several of the books would be a great resource for many families going through a divorce, it was the title of the website itself that made me cringe. Win your child custody war, why does their need to be a war? The words war and child shouldn’t be in the same sentence, let alone two grown adults having a war over a child.

When parents make the decision to end their marriage, the first step that they should take is to find a good counselor to help their family through the process. Custody wars are usually a result of a breakdown in communication, a counselor can help the adults keep the lines of communication open, while also helping the parents to decide on a fair custody schedule between the two of them.

Some parents start out with good communication after they separate, only to have it dissipate when issues that the parents do not know how to deal with arise. A counselor can give the parents the correct tools to use when issues that they are not used to dealing with arise, helping the parents to maintain a good relationship between the two of them.

Before having contact with each other, it is important for the parents to remember that they are maintaining a good relationship with their ex partner for the benefit of their child. If the parents actions are always with their child in mind, it will be easy for the two of them to get along in a civil manner. Parents do not need to be able to spend hours on the phone chatting away; they simply need to be able to keep a civil and respectful manner towards one another.

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