January 30th, 2008
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Our adoption anniversary is quickly approaching, and I am getting more excited by the day. Even though our plates here are packed full with extra life stresses, I am still thinking about the adoption day, and how we are going to make it special. Hubby and I have some things planned during the day while the kids are at school, as he is taking this very special day off from work, but we have yet to decide what we are going to do as a family once the children return from school.

We tend to celebrate the day as a family birthday, it was the day that our family was born, so we tend to think of it as the family’s birthday and usually have cake and presents for all!


So far my adopted stepson has done great with his adoption anniversary days. We have not encountered attitude, acting out, or any of the other negative behaviors that parents often face when a child is struggling with adoption issues. I am so proud that he is able to enjoy himself and his life, and not dwell on the past. Getting over trauma is terribly difficult and to see how far he has come, the strength that he has to be able to rise above the pain that he has suffered is incredible. Sitting here gazing at the adoption announcement that I leave next to my bed, just fills my heart with pride, joy, love, and admiration for the special boy that I get to call my son.

Do you consider your stepparent adoption day to be a family birthday? Do you celebrate the family, or the child? We chose to celebrate the family because we did not want my adopted stepson to be singled out. It was a day that all of us became a family, not just him joining in with the rest of us, so the focus is more on family and not on the child’s adoption. I have even been thinking about decorating the house this year, perhaps some streamers and balloons throughout the house to make it feel more festive!

Anyone out there throw big parties for adoption anniversaries? Do you have a good story to share? Log in and post your comment below!

One Response to “Adoption Anniversaries”

  1. booellis says:

    I have a 13 year old step daughter and I am in the process of trying to adopt her. I have raised her since she was 2 almost3 years old. I have been married to her father for 10 years and together we have four children. I think that my step daughter (which I call my daughter and I do not single her out at all) thinks she’s not wantd. This is because her bio mother calls her when she wants, dont call her on her b-days. etc. The last timr she seen her bio mother was xmas. The child is so confused and p.oed. at the world. She has called me mommy almost since the day she met me. The bad part is the bio mom lives in the same town as us, can’t stop by can’t call, nothing. Then when she does (this was Jan, before the last xmas that she seen her) she asked my husband if she could take her to the beach. ( 7pm, middle of Jan, and it was freezing out). We said no! Well needless to say she did it any way. I guess the reason I am trying to get to is how did you go about the step parent adoption? I don’t know where to start. I know more than likely th bio will say no, but the child even wants her out of her life. I feel so bad for her just because when I was a kid I go ttreated the same way by my father, and my step dad wanted to adopt me (I wanted him to, I just didn’t want my middle and last name Lee Lee) I didn’t want to be picked on. So if you could give me any pointer it would be greatly appreciated, I know it veries state by state but I still don’t know where to start. And wouldn’t I be able to get her for abandonmet? Since bio mom hasn’t seen her since xmas? Which was me calling her to say wouldn’t you like to see our daughter-It’s christmas for gods sake! So she finnally said ok I’ll come get her. Oh and she’s ordered to pay child support but she only pays when she wants, which is a mealsy 175.00 not much for a teenager! Any help would be so nice ThAanks and good luck, Happy Birthday Family!!!! I can’t wait for our day!

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