Speaking ill of birth/first parents is a controversial topic in the adoption world, as Faith pointed out this morning in a wonderful post. Being one who was raised to be quiet if you can't muster up something nice to say, speaking ill of someone, especially when they are not around to defend themselves is admittedly hard for me. I did not care for my son's biological mother, I did not agree with her choices, I did not agree with most of her actions, nor did I agree with the manner that she treated my adopted stepson, yet I was terrified that if I were to say something... more